How do you overcome your biggest fear?
1) Explore your reasons behind the fear and challenge them 2) Learn some relaxation techniques which you can practice and use when confronting the fear 3) Expose yourself to the fear a little at a time, to allow yourself to adjust 4) Keep persisting – it will work!
(Since it is quite challenging, it is often helpful to go through these steps with a counsellor. A counsellor can teach you how to relax, help you come up with ways to challenge negative thoughts, and help you feel safer as you face your phobia. Always seek professional help if your phobia is interfering with your daily life or causing you significant distress.)
Do you believe in giving someone a second chance?
Posted on June 30, 2011 by Kevin Humphrys
It would be lovely to be able to be anecdotal and suggest we ALL deserve a second chance. But what about the violent partner, or the emotionally abusive friend? Of course we are all very capable of some wrong-doing, but a generally good exercise which can help you decide whether to give someone a second chance is to ask yourself; how much did they hurt me? And is the possibility of a healthy relationship with them worth the risk of them doing their misdemeanour again? If it is, or if it isn’t then you have your answer!
(Remember to take account of others around you who are affected by your decision, particularly children. If you feel the relationship is worth saving but you are unable to make it work alone consider seeing a couple’s counsellor. A counsellor can help by mediating, teaching you to communicate in a more meaningful way and helping you see things from each other’s point of view. Always seek appropriate professional help immediately if you feel pressured or in danger.)